I can’t stand this double standard.

"A guy touched your shoulder without permission and now you are scared of all straight men because they are potential rapists? Aww sweetie we totally understand, men are horrible pigs."

"Another woman harassed/raped you and now you’re a bit wary around lesbians? Wow way to be a generalizing homophobe get the fuck over yourself."

I used to compliment people all the time, and you know what happens? “Lol why are you hitting on me” “ummm, thanks” “stop being so creepy” “you just want a compliment in return”

I always compliment people genuinely, and never in an inappropriate way. It’s usually a simple “your hair looks nice today!” Or “that jacket is SO cute!” Or even “you’re really good at math, wow!”

What kind of a society do we live in where platonic, simple compliments are received as vies for attention or as creepy? My friends even told me that complimenting people like that is wrong and is bound to get me filed for sexual harassment.

Like what the actual fuck.

On rape culture

If we actually lived in a ‘Patriarchal Rape Culture’, there would be no laws against it: you’d see it happening on every street corner and nobody batting an eyelid. All depictions of rape in films and TV would have the message that it’s no big deal and that the girl should just suck it up and stop being such a crybaby. That being raped is, in fact, a silly, everyday part of life and as funny as falling off a ladder or stubbing your toe.

But of course, nothing could be further from the truth: in the west, rape is universally considered, after pedophilia and perhaps murder, the very worst crime possible, and depictions in the laws of the land, the education system, the press and other media reflects this absolutely.

In fact, the only times rape is ever treated as trivial or a fit subject for humor is when it happens to men. Which, as you probably know,  is where the term ‘Rape Culture’ first originated: a 1974 documentary about the institutionally accepted prevalance of male rape in the U.S prison system. Yep, the feminists stole that too.

What makes me sad about the average feminist is that passionate, misinformed people are being misinformed BY feminism, manipulated and misled by people within that ideology whose true agenda is the polar opposite of what those well-intentioned people believe they are working towards.

Radical Feminism is the heart of feminism - all its teachings and beliefs originate and ripple out from it: the people who wrote the fundamental texts taught in gender studies classes are all radical feminists. The people who TEACH those gender studies classes are all radical feminists. The people organizing slutwalks and poster campaigns, drawing up petitions with which to lobby government: these are all radical feminists. To them, the great majority of ‘this is what a feminist looks like’ t-shirts are just a herd of cattle puppets, to be herded around and their strings pulled every time they need more funding for another government program that demonizes and scapegoats men and tells all women they are victims.

As I’ve said before, you cannot judge a movement or ideology on what the people within it think they’re doing, only on its actions, its past history and especially the public statements of its most prominent spokespeople.

Otherwise, we’d all be Mormons.

Or Nazis.

Actually, both.